Some people struggle to choose between Alliance and Horde.
Some people struggle to choose between races.
Some people struggle to choose between classes.
Sometimes decisions are more difficult.
A week ago my family had to make a choice about my Mother’s future.
Let her continue on in a crippled body, half her brain dead, her organs not under her own control…
Let her go…
We made the decision to let her go. We know this was the right decision as no matter how much unfinished business she left, she was practical enough to have the hard conversations over the past few years.
Still, it was a hard decision, especially as she hung on for another week.
She left us on Saturday afternoon and we “plant” her (as Odin describes it) tomorrow. She won’t go alone, she will take Dad’s ashes with her, one of her final requests, one actually made 17 years ago.
Maybe Odin is right and we are planting Mum and something beautiful will grow (beyond the grass, the only thing allowed).
As much as the last couple of weeks have been hard, they have also been beautiful opportunity as well.
Most of her family (those still mobile enough) managed to spend some quality time with her.
She had her initial fall on Odin’s birthday, while she prepared to come to his party. While Odin didn’t notice on the day (there was way too much happening), he knew she hadn’t made it.
He has been amazing for a 3 year old, with us at the hospital for some portion of nearly every day.
He was rewarded for this on one occasion when daddy revealed his birthday present that Nanny was hiding under her hospital bed sheets. That was a beautiful moment, my son made me very proud as he thanked his dying grandmother profusely.
She was surrounded by her family in her last moments. She didn’t die alone, rather with the family that she fought so hard for over her 86 years.
Just make sure you have that big breakfast waiting for me when I catch up to you… You promised it, even if you couldn’t move, or truely tell me what an idiot I was at the time.
One day I will come to collect.
Gnomer and Out!