Comments on: Family Game Playing

By: CreepTheProphet

CreepTheProphet — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 18:30:08 +0000

That’s too bad about your Mum Gnomer. Really sad when family is looking more after their own interests than those of the folks that should mean a lot to them. Not fun having to go through that.

By: pewpewlazerz

pewpewlazerz — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 23:00:37 +0000

I know what I’d like to say, Gnomey, but by the time you’d finished censoring it there wouldn’t be a lot left. I’ll just wish you and your family best of luck with everything, especially your poor mum. Hang in there.

By: Sprink

Sprink — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:18:12 +0000

Aww, Gnomer! /hugs

Don’t beat yourself up too much over it, and you’re a far better person than I if you don’t end up punching your brother.

On a more positive note, just remember that everything works out exactly as it’s supposed to. It’s all a learning experience and everything will be fine.

Our thoughts are all with you, and take as much time (and venting) as you need. ^_^

By: theerivs

theerivs — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 15:58:39 +0000

My Thoughts are with you Gnomer. Hope Everything works out.

Actually on my personal blog I posted this thought before reading yours.

I’ll let you read it.

http://theeriver.wordpress.com/2009/07/29/through-chaos-comes-knowledge/

I think you’ll come through this a better person.

By: Prelimar

Prelimar — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:37:28 +0000

oh, snap! you’re right! i DID forget that! in fact, i think it inspired me to call my birthday this year the “answer to life, the universe, and everything” birthday, much to the confusion of some of my friends.

By: gnomeaggedon

gnomeaggedon — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 11:29:29 +0000

thanks everyone, I really appreciate your thoughts.. don’t worry, I am not beating myself up too much… I need to spend my time positively working on her future, so dwelling on the past wont get her there.

MRI results tomorrow… fingers crossed.

@Prelimar.. Ohh? You missed my meaning of life post… oh that’s right, at our young age the memory starts to dwindle

By: Tamarind

Tamarind — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 08:52:07 +0000

Oh God, I’m so sorry. This sounds like an incredibly stressful and upsetting time for you, with or without your brother behaving like an absolute rat (sorry to be so judgemental on your blog, by the way).

And you shouldn’t feel in any way responsible for anything that’s happened – it’s very clear from this post that you are wonderful son. Where aged family members are concerned, it’s a minefield of guilt and family politics. It sounds like you wont’ be able to to avoid the latter, but don’t heap guilt on yourself as well. You haven’t failed your mother. After all, ascribing the lowest motives to members of your own family is not something anyone should do lightly. In giving your brother the benefit of the doubt the first time round you were merely being a decent human being, and I think it’s what anyone would have done.

By: Prelimar

Prelimar — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 04:46:19 +0000

holy cats, what a pickle. isn’t family politics and drama the WORST? i’d take guild drama over family drama any time.

i’ll echo what others have already said: whatever you do, DON’T feel like you have failed your mom at all. in fact, you have been on her side, and thinking of her best interests the WHOLE TIME. continue to fight the good fight, and visit her often — this INCLUDES sacrificing wow-time! she is more important. she would want to see you more and deserves that. tell your oldest brother to get stuffed. this kind of insane greed tears families apart (i know, i’ve been there), and it’s not worth it. what matters right now is that your mother is sick and she needs you.

also, as an extreme side-note, i’m surprised to find that you and i are the same age.
: )

By: Arioch

Arioch — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 04:13:00 +0000

Wow.

I think that’s all I can say.

Best wishes with getting this sorted out and hope your brother takes it in the shorts. There’s one in every family…

By: Ruune

Ruune — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 04:11:00 +0000

Sorry to hear of your woes Gnomer – for some reason the care of parents always seems to bring out the crazy family syndrome. Don’t beat yourself up about it too much though – your mum still probably deserved to retain as much personal integrity as she could in making her own decisions about her care (even if those decisions were prompted by the unfair manipulation of others).

Hope that things begin to look up soon.